Who is the peacemaker in your family? If somebody would ask this question 20 years back,I would definitely say,who else,it's my mom. Not only my mom,each and every mother does the same thing in her family. Be it the fighting between you and your friend,she will come in between and pacify both of you. If she is not present and you are beaten badly,come home and tell her. She will pamper you,you will forget all your sorrow by that. You have scored badly and are afraid of telling to your dad. She will frown and scold you at the beginning,but when dad comes to know,she will protect you from his wrath and encourage you to do better. Mom's love, shelter in mom's arms is the most trustworthy one when you are a child. Your world revolves around her. She's the ideal person for you. You have a belief,if something happens she will make it alright You trust her beyond any limit.
Peacemaking is one of the aspects of a mother, as a child thinks. If dad is angry because of something,a child always knows mom will be able to pacify him. How,that doesn't matter. Ladies are,generally more compromising,as I believe. I have seen this in many cases. I want to play with my friends.I ask dad 100 times. First he listens but doesn't allow,then he stops talking. Then he shouts, finally he slaps! But for mom,I don't need her tell 100 times. She has the patience to explain why I should not play. If I don't listen,one stern look is enough to shut my mouth forever. And she's always understanding enough to allow u just for a few minutes,not to let you down. Dad has not that much time to explain and listen to my points,but mom has all the time for me.
Not only regarding the child's matters,in other matters also the lady compromises and makes peace in the family. She sometimes sacrifices her own happiness or comfort because of that. In any family function,she takes care of everyone and tries to put things into places beyond her limit also. If something annoys somebody, she is the one to apologize and make things straight. Where the husband is not compromising,the wife manages things accordingly to restore the peace. If sons are quarreling,the old mother tries to restore the peace in the house. They think selflessly. The near and dear ones to them get the priority,then they think about themselves. That's all about being a "Lady of the house",it doesn't include only honor and pride,but sacrifice and compromises also.
Why I am thinking all these? Well,in my childhood days I have seen my mom playing the role of the peacemaker. When my elder sisters got married,they also got the post involuntarily. I always wondered, will the same thing happen to me when I will get married? For long time,I didn't think about it. But today,when an auto driver starts arguing with my hubby about the fare and I say," Come on brother,We will give you some extra bucks, just cover that much distance..............." a smile crosses my face. I didn't realize, when and how I got the cap of peacemaker! But I got it somehow,while entering my own family. Well, the feeling hurts sometimes. But above all,a great satisfaction lies there. It teaches one to be selfless. I am doing it to make peace among all,this feeling gives you enormous pleasure. Try it once yourself, then you will realize,why I am saying that.
