*I had hrdly finished submission of my Review "AGED PARENTS-EMPTY NESTS" that my cell rang with a shrill tone. I picked up the cell and
Me: Hello.(My friend BD Tandon was very agitated and frantically speaking from the other side)
B.D.Tondon: Hello. Varma Ji .*
*Me:Yes. Speaking.
*Tandon: I need your advice. We had gone on Yatra. Returned just half an hour back. My nephew is missing since last three days. His wife hass thrown him out and closed the doors on him.*
*Me: How long is he married?Has he any children?*
*Tandon: He was married about five years back. He has a daughter 4 years old and a son 1year old.*
*Me: Had they been fighting after marriage?
*Tandon: Yes . His wife have been quarrelling most of the time. But for his children sake he had been on the receiving end.
*Me:How did you come to know that he was missing.
*Tandon: There was a call about few minutes back. Huis fathertr-in-law was asking me whether he was with us. What should we do? Our neighbours are advising us to report the matter with the police.What do you say?*
*I told him to first have a talk wityh his fther-in-law about the whole matter. Try to know what caused the quarrel between husband and wife. There is a possibilty that his in-laws may be planning to file police complaint under DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT. If not, try to find your nephew firsty. Then sit togatherr and resolve the issue after dicussing the matter among both parties. If not come to my office in the morning we shall file police complaint about the missing boy and report the matterr to the police because if that is not done the in-laws may misuse the incident to involve all of you in false police case to protect the erring wife. He also sought my help as ASTROLOGER to know whether his nephew was safe and will he return? I asked the name of boy. His name was ANMOL. I told him not to worry, he is safe and is likely to return by 8th Sep.(The incident took place on 5th September, 09).)*
*I waited for Mr.Tandon till noon on 6/9. He did not turn up. He being my close frien I rang him up to know the situation. He told me that his nephew had gone to his father-in-law . He returned from their in the morning and was heaving breakfast with him. The matterr is to be discussed after lunch in a meeting where relatives of both sides would be present. We have demanded apology and assurance from the wife of Anmol that she would behave properly and if any mishap happens she would be held responsible. The matter has now been resolved.*
*Though Indian Penal Code, Dowry Act, Hindu Marriage Act provided ample protections tofemales but on public demand and ondemand of WomenOrganizations DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ACT was passed by the goverrnment as there were reports about exploitaion of women and attrocities on them Punishment given by parents to girls, manhandling, abuse and inflicting physical and mental injuries to women in their family . were included in Domestic Violence Act. Special Police Stations were created where only lady police officers were posted so that any woman can go their and register her complaint about any violence inflicted upon her.*
*These violences can be reduced by taking the following steps:*
*1. Educate the girls.*
*2. Their property rights are protected and given to them*
*3. The parents of the girls should not interrfere in their family life. Some parents give shelter to
their daughters even when they are at fault. They also exaggerate the incidents, There aepetty quarrels inall families but in many cases the parents of the girl over react and the matters get worse.*
*4. The housewives must learn to live within the financial means of the husband.*
*5. Local marriages must be avoided.In such marriages the girls keep in constant touch with their mothers and report the pettiest incident to their mothers who make mountain out of a mole hill.*
*6. Both the spouses must be sexually sound and neither should feel dis-satisfied with each other.Infertrtility and impotence also lead to domestic voilence.*
*7. There should not be much difference in Education, financial status, IQ levels, fainess of complexions, physical fitness among the two spouses.*
*8.The marriage is a bond which remains in tavct only when both the spouses respect each other, co-operate each other, are loyal to each other, care for each other and their egos do not clash.*
*9.Astrologically the Aries, Leos and Saggittarians are hot tempered. Both sposes should not be of same rasis of this group. The No 5 and 4 shouls not marry with no.9 and 8 respectively.The horoscopes must be matched before going for marriage.
The age difference between the two should be 5 or 9 years.Persons born in two consecutive months should not marry each other like Jan-Feb, Feb-March, March-April and likewise should not marry each other.
Jan borns should not marry April, June and August borns,
Feb ones avoid May, July and Sep borns,
March born aoid, June, Aug and Oct borns,
April borns avoid July, Sep, Nov borns,
May born avoid Aug, Ocy, Dec borns,
June borns avoid Sep, Nov, Jan borns.
July borns avoid Jan, March and May borns,
Aug borns avoid Nov, Jan and march borns,
Sep borns avoid Dec, Feb and April borns,
Oct borns avoid Jan, March and May borns,
Nov borns avoid Feb, April and June borns,
Dec borns avoid March, May and July borns as far as possible.*
*The Domestic Voilence Act was created for safeguarding the females but it has been misused to such an extent that DUKHI PATI SANSTHA has been created in Bihar. There are now cases where the husbands are so much tortured by their wives that many have left homes and are missing for the last 4/6 years. There are housewives who have lodged police complaints that their husbasnds are missing for lastmany years. They want the police to locate them. Some are willing to live peacefully while others are waiting to seek divorce if their husbands are locared. Few husbands are reported to have married and are living under cover for fear of again being tortured by their wives. By the time police reach to catch them they change their places.*
*No Law canbe useful unless implemented by sociey itself. IThe husband and wife are two wheels of the cart and must try to live peacefully with love, respect, care, faiyh, loyality, sincerety towards each other.
The above are very important ways to avoid DOMESTIC VOILENCE>
